So, the hard answer for how you are able to see suffering as Grace, and this is a stinker really, is that you have got to have consumed suffering into yourself.  Which means, you see there is a tendency in us to find suffering aversive.  And so we want to distance ourselves from it. Like if you have a toothache, it becomes that toothache.  It’s not us any more.  It’s that tooth.  And so if there are suffering people, you want to look at them on television or meet them but then keep a distance from them.  Because you are afraid you will drown in it.  You are afraid you will drown in a pain that will be unbearable.  And the fact of the matter is you have to.  You finally have to.  Because if you close your heart down to anything in the universe, it’s got you.  You are then at the mercy of suffering.  And to have finally dealt with suffering, you have to consume it into yourself.  Which means you have to, with eyes open, be able to keep your heart open in hell.  You have to look at what is, and say Yea, Right. 

And what it involves is bearing the unbearable.  And in a way, who you think you are can’t do it.  Who you really are can do it.  So that who you think you are dies in the process.  

- Ram Dass. 

(Source: realitysandwich.com)